Destination Addiction

For most of my life, I struggled with thinking, “life will be better when…”

I graduate with honors.

I land the dream job.

I find my life partner.

I weigh a certain amount.

I fit into those jeans.

Always focused on the next big thing, I was living for the milestones and accolades, completely missing out on the journey.

And you know what? When I finally did graduate with honors, I realized I felt… empty. Disappointed.

All that work, and the high I was expecting? Nonexistent. 😕

Here’s where it gets personal: my experience isn’t unique. Many of prospective coaching clients battle this same addiction when it comes to their health and weight loss goals.

They often say, “I’ll be happy when I reach this weight...” And then when they do, guess what? They’re still not happy. They think, “Maybe another ten pounds will do it.” And the cycle continues.

Does this resonate? Have you ever thought, “I’ll finally be happy when...”? Whether it’s reaching a specific weight, fitting into a certain size, or achieving that perfect look?

Trust me, you’re not alone.

This is why it’s critical to prioritize the process over the outcome. Because focusing solely on the outcome means missing out on life’s daily joys and accomplishments and often leads to unhealthy relationships with food and our bodies.

Here's are 5 big shifts that changed my life—and can change yours too:

Habits Over Outcomes

Focusing on daily habits like eating nutritious meals, moving my body in ways that feel good, and practicing stress management - rather than simply focusing on the results these habits created - transformed how I viewed success.

Consistency Over Perfection

Understanding that small, consistent efforts compound over time was a game-changer. I stopped feeling frustrated by what previously felt like small or insignificant progress once I realized that every step counts.

Intrinsic Motivation

Finding enjoyable activities and foods that added quality and pleasure to my every day life - rather than waiting to enjoy life once I “arrived” at my goal - made it easier to maintain my habits long-term.

Flexibility

Being open to adjusting my approach based on the feedback my body sent me allowed me to pivot when necessary, ensuring long-term success, rather than trying to rigidly follow a plan.

Health and Well-being

Focusing on improved biofeedback—like better energy, mood, sleep, and fitness—was key. Health improvements are tangible and more rewarding than seeing a smaller number on the scale.

If you’re tired of the never-ending chase for the next milestone and want to start living in the now, focus on the process that brings you joy and fulfillment every day. Your journey is just as important as your destination.

Ready to break free from destination addiction and build a healthy, confident relationship with yourself?

Reach out. I’m here for you.