To everyone afraid of failing 'again',

Last night, I was juuust starting to fall asleep when I jolted awake in a panic because I heard a strange sound coming from my son’s monitor.

You see, a year ago, my son had a febrile seizure shortly after falling asleep that resulted in an ER visit, hospital admission, and long-term seizure meds.. To say the experience was traumatic feels like an understatement. I’ve never felt panic like that before.

Since then, whenever my son has a fever, my anxiety escalates in anticipation of another seizure. Pair that with the strange thumping sound coming through his monitor late at night and my nervous system jumped into fight or flight.

Turns out he woke up parched and was just guzzling water from his sippy cup like he was in the Sahara,

completely safe and healthy.

But before my brain registered that fact, I was plunged back into the same panic I felt over a year ago.

As I laid in bed, trying to calm my racing heart enough to go to sleep, I started thinking…

How many times has this exact same thing happened before? How many times have I reacted to the present as if it’s the past all over again?

… especially when it comes to my body and food?

I can’t tell you how many times clients and prospective clients have said they’ve failed ‘so many times’ in the past that they don’t know if they can be successful.

—even when they’re eating more nourishing foods, moving their bodies in a way that feels good, and no longer obsessing over food —the fear still creeps in.

Because they’ve been there before.

They’ve been the girl who thought she finally found the thing that would work…

…only to fall “off track” again.

So now, even when things feel calm and consistent, their brains are bracing for failure impact.
Waiting for the failure.
Expecting the crash.

• The scale goes up a pound and they panic.

• They eat dessert and feel like they “blew it.”

• They rest instead of working out and question everything.

The fear of repeating the past sabotages the progress they’re making in the present.

But here’s the truth: Just because your past taught you to fear the worst doesn’t mean the worst is coming.

Your body isn’t broken.
You’re not failing.
Your brain is simply trying to protect you based on what it’s known before.

Healing your relationship with food means more than just changing what you eat—it means learning to trust that this time, it can be different.

If you’re tired of living in the loop of past diets, past failures, and past rules… I want you to know: there is another way. One that’s actually sustainable. And I’d love to show you how.

Struggling with fat loss? Your MINDSET might be the missing puzzle piece!

If fat loss, food freedom, and body confidence were as easy as eating the “right” foods and working out enough, my guess is most of us would have achieved our dream bodies a looooong time ago.

How you think about these things matters more than you realize. It’s true that eating goal-supportive foods and moving your body is important, but so is having supportive thought patterns around these behaviors.

Too many women approach fat loss from a place of hate and shame. They focus their energy on restricting food intake and forcing themselves to push through long, sweaty workouts.

The reality is, punishment and shame can only take you so far before you crash and burn. And instead of progress and improved health, you’ll be left with disappointment and frustration that you failed yet again.

Follow these steps, alongside healthy eating and movement habits, for true, lasting change you can actually feel good about:

1 >> Recognize unhelpful or self-destructive thought patterns:

“I’ll never be successful, I might as well quit.”

“It’s easier for her because of X.”

“I have no self-control, if I eat one cookie I’ll eat them all!”

“I hate exercising and vegetables so I’ll never be healthy.”

“I ate some pizza and now everything is ruined. Guess I’ll start again Monday.”

“I have to eat clean foods only. Processed food is bad.”

These are all common but completely unproductive thoughts. Instead of helping you towards your goal, they only serve to hold you back. In order to create change, you must first create awareness.

2 >> Focus on reframes or fact-check yourself. Now that you have awareness of your personal thought patterns, it’s time to do something about them! You can choose to reframe them or simply decide they’re untrue and no longer worth your time. This can look like:

“This process is taking longer than I thought, but every day I’m closer to my goals.”

“Actually, I’m an adult and no one is forcing me to finish the cookies. Eating 2 cookies is great, and now I’m going to put the rest away even though I wish I could eat more. That choice doesn’t align with my goals.”

“I don’t like traditional workouts but I enjoy walking with a friend and playing tennis. I’ll focus my energy there.”

“I overate some pizza today. That’s totally fine, I’m human and allowed to be imperfect. I’ll wait until I’m hungry and then eat a more goal-supportive meal.”

3 >> Practice patience and self-compassion. You’ve likely had some of these thought patterns for years, if not decades! They won’t go away overnight. Expect them to stick around for a bit. That doesn’t mean you’re failing! It’s hard for your brain to rewire them. Stay focused on your reframes and fact checking. Be kind to yourself when you fall back into old habits. The longer you stick with this, the quieter your old thought patterns become.

Creating lasting change isn’t always easy, or pretty. It requires that you get honest and vulnerable about what’s truly holding you back. But rest assured, leaning into that discomfort does pay off in the end!

As always, if you need any help, do not hesitate to fill out a Coaching Application.

We’re always here to help,

Coach Lauren