A few weeks ago I received a frustrated message from a woman wildly uncomfortable in her own body. In her message she said,

“The only thing that has ever worked for me is calorie counting but you say that’s disordered eating. It’s so frustrating to hear ‘do what works for you’ when what’s working is considered wrong…”

I think most of us can relate to the woman on the other end of this message. I know I can.

  • Feeling unhappy with her weight, size and body image

  • Trying hard to eat well and exercise with consistency

  • Attempting to embrace slow progress in a quick fix world

  • Navigating conflicting nutrition education and advice

  • All while trying to be the best mom and wife she can be

And she was doing it! Trusting the process and feeling pretty good…until she saw a candid photo of herself. Then it all came flooding back - the uncertainty, the frustration, the insecurity, the unhappiness, the urge to ditch the consistency train and jump on the nearest fad diet.

Through our conversation we were able to arrive at the fact that calorie counting had been really helpful for her historically.

It sounds like that works for you. That’s great! Stick with it.

“But you said counting calories is unhealthy and considered disordered eating”, she said.

I think you might have misunderstood me. Calorie counting can be unhealthy for some of us, promoting feelings of restriction, deprivation and scarcity, sure. But calorie counting can also be a really helpful tool in managing overall caloric consumption and weight loss. The question you need to ask yourself is, ‘does this work for me and my body?’ and forget what everybody else says.

Hear me when I say this ——>

It doesn’t matter one iota what anyone else says - even if they have 500K Instagram followers - it doesn’t matter AT ALL what anyone else says if it doesn’t work for you. No one knows your body as well as you do. Coaches/mentors/physicians/therapists/etc. can advise, educate and help hold you accountable, but they can’t know what works for you and your body without your say so.

When it comes to seeing wildly powerful results, here’s the only equation you need to succeed:

  1. Experiment. Try. Fail. Try again. Fail. Try something else.

  2. Listen to your body. What feels good? What doesn’t?

  3. Collect empirical evidence. Consider all variables and barriers and ask, “does this work for me, consistently?”

  4. Find what works. FOR YOU. Draw a conclusion.

  5. Stick with it. Keep doing it. For as long as it works.

Counting calories, measuring macros and living in the underfeed (diet)-overeat (binge)-underfeed(diet again) cycle didn’t work for me. But you know what did? Learning how to listen to my body, honor my health and eat intuitively.

If that sounds like something you’re interested in learning more about, I’d love to have you join my All About Intuitive Eating webinar! THIS Saturday, November 17th at 10:00am.

You can register by clicking the button below.


Nothing beats, “find what works for you and stick with it”.

Forever and ever, amen.

If anyone tells you otherwise, put your earbuds in and run in the opposite direction. Quite literally.

Eat Well. Live Well. Be Well.